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Below are 6 useful tips for parents on
how they could help to encourage positive child behavior. This would
help in bringing up a socially well-adjusted and confident child.
1. Be aware of the behavior you model. Every time you talk kindly to
your child, you are teaching him how to talk kindly to others.
2. Don't turn conversations with your child into lectures. Make the
interaction enjoyable for both of you. It tells your child that you
have an interest in his well-being and provides a time for swapping
information and discussing problems.
3. You don't have to know the answers to all of your child's problems
but you can guide him in solving them. Do not dismiss your child's
concerns or trivialize their complexity by offering flippant answers.
4. Social rejection makes children react with anger, dismay or passive
acceptance. If your child faces rejection by his peers, do not allow
him to think that it was because of a personal deficiency (eg "l'm just
not much fun" or "Other kids don't like me"). Avoid making things worse
with defeatist comments, like "Maybe they don't like you". Always adopt
a positive attitude when helping your child to deal with difficult
social situations. Offer suggestions like, "Maybe they don't want to
play that game but another one." Your constructiveness will help him
try to improve social situations with effort and positive behavior.
5. Don't just tell, but teach, your child to share. Have him take turns
with the other children. Divide the toys up so that everyone has some.
Or find a way for them all to play together with the toys. lf your
child wants to play with other children but does not know how to join
in, teach him how to ask.
6. Encourage positive behavior by teaching your child specific social
skills, like how to consider the feelings of others. For example, if
your child hits another, tell him, "You hurt that little girl and made
her cry." Also, teach him what to say when he is hurt or bullied by
other children, like "That really hurts!" and "Stop that!"
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